Tuesday, February 28, 2012

Facing Fears

To say the past month has been hard is an understatement. We are in the midst of another rough patch and I can't wait for my sweet boy to come back to us. So today, partly because I am sick of it, partly because I was tired of his attitude, I forced Ben to face his fear of the big, bad, and oh so scary......leaf blower. I don't really know where the issue stems from, I do know that Ben had a few issues with sounds as a baby (would totally freak out when he heard tinkering music...certain toys that made music he HATED) and I would have thought the leaf blower situation would have disappeared by now. He says it is the sound that scares him more so than the actual leaf blower. So, LITERALLY, I drug him out of the door kicking and screaming, which wasn't easy since he is at least half of my weight already. If you had been anywhere in our neighborhood, you would have thought he was being beaten in the driveway to have heard his screams...but we did it. Total immersion. It works. He faced his fears head on. The leaf blower guy was in our back yard to begin with. After a few minutes of hurt your throat screaming, Ben calmed down and sat in a chair and watched. And realized the leaf blower is not so bad after all. I'm sure it will take a little coaxing the next few times they are around, but we are going to kick this old habit!

Big Bad Leaf Blower
Delia is just chillin' in the background with some sidewalk chalk.
Big Bad Leaf Blower
And before anyone thinks I'm a horrible mother and mean, this fear of his affects his life. The yard guys come on the days that he doesn't have school, and the boy will NOT go outdoors if they are working. It is pitiful, really. And here is proof that he was over it in no time and ready to ride his bike. :)
Big Bad Leaf Blower

4 comments:

Barb February 29, 2012 at 11:54 AM  

Oh Laurie, this is what makes you a GREAT mom. You saw your little one having a problem and you took the neccessary steps to help him overcome his fears. Way to go!!! I hope in time he will be able to happily play outside when the leaf blower is going!

Carrie February 29, 2012 at 12:31 PM  

Awww. I definitely don't think you're a horrible mother! You're teaching him to rebalance his sense of fear, recognizing when he should be fearful versus when he shouldn't. If he were deathly afraid of heights and you pushed him to jump out of a plane or bungie jump, that would be a different story! He sure does look much happier afterward than during the process!

Megan March 1, 2012 at 1:11 AM  

So sorry about a rough patch :( Isaac has those too. We have good months and bad months... it's hard to predict when he'll switch from happy kid to moody kid. Frustrating for sure. I'm glad B was able to face that fear!!

Valeria March 6, 2012 at 12:07 AM  

You did a great job. We all should face our fears and sometimes a little push is all it takes.

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